Do you tip? Are you supposed to be nude? Do you say anything if the pressure's not deep enough? What if you're self-conscious about your body?

Here are the answers to a few massage questions you want to ask, but may be too embarrassed to.


Am I supposed to tip my massage therapist?

If you were pleased with the services, a 15% to 20% tip is standard and greatly appreciated.


Tipping is so appreciated because massage is hard work, very hard work. It is extrememly physically demanding and it can put a lot of stress physically, mentally, and emotionally on a therapist.

Am I supposed to take off my underwear when I get a massage?

Many people prefer to keep their panties or briefs on during a massage, while others prefer to be completely nude. It's up to you.

If your problem areas are your lower back, hips, buttocks, or groin, tight-fitting underwear most often gets in the way of massage work, but if you would still feel more comfortable wearing some type of underwear, a thong should do the trick.

What if I realize I've drooled during the massage?

Many people fall into a peaceful slumber during the massage but when they wake up, they notice a pool of drool on the pillow or massage table. This is very common. It often happens when people are being massaged while lying face down on the massage table. Don’t be afraid to ask the therapist for a tissue.

Will the massage therapist be there when I undress?

The massage therapist will leave the room so that you can remove your clothing and lie on the massage table (usually face down).

Don't rush or worry that the massage therapist will walk in on you -- the massage therapist always knocks and asks if you are ready before entering the massage room.


Should I talk to the massage therapist during the massage?

It is completely up to you whether you want to talk or just close your eyes and relax. For some, it is therapeutic to talk during their massage. It helps reduce stress. Others are quiet and fall asleep. Some do a little of both. Either way, it is fine with us. We will be happy to accommodate you.

We want your time with us to be the most pleasant and relaxing experience, so keep in mind at any time during your massage you may comment on the following:


  • if the room is too hot or too cold
  • if you experience pain
  • if you have any questions related to the massage
  • if there is anything you forgot to mention during the consultation



What if I get an erection during the massage?

Some men don't get massage therapy because they worry that they will get an erection. Or they get the massage, but are unable to relax during the massage because of this fear.

I assure you there is no reason to be embarrassed. It is perfectly normal for men to get an erection during a non-sexual, therapeutic massage.

Gentle touch administered to any area of the body can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and cause a partial or full erection. Your massage therapist (male or female) understands this and will generally ignore it.

The pressure isn't deep enough, but I don't want to insult the massage therapist's technique. What should I do?

Communicate openly with the massage therapist. Keep in mind however that it's a myth that massage therapy has to hurt to be effective.

Some of the most effective types of massage therapy are gentle and do not involve deep pressure or pain. In fact, too much pressure can cause muscles to seize up.

Here is a good rule of thumb -- on a scale of one to 10 where one is no pain and 10 is extremely painful, the pressure should always be less than seven.


I'm self-conscious about a certain part of my body and don't want the massage therapist to see me. What can I do?

People are self-conscious for various reasons. Some of the more common concerns are:

  • I'm overweight.
  • I have excessive hair growth on my body.
  • I've got acne on my face or back.
  • My feet are ugly.
  • I have scars.


Being self-conscious should never keep you from seeking health care, whether it's visiting your doctor or seeing a massage therapist.

If you're self-conscious about a certain part of your body, you can ask the massage therapist to avoid that area.

I'd rather see a female massage therapist. Should I request this?

Some men don’t feel comfortable having a massage by a male massage therapist. It may be due to outdated social and media stereotypes of the profession or the fear of getting an erection during the massage.

Erection is a common physiological response that happens when the parasympathetic nervous system is activated by touch anywhere on the body.)

Some women also prefer a female massage therapist because they say they feel more comfortable.

This doesn't just apply to massage therapy. A University of Michigan study found that 43 percent of women preferred a female doctor for a colonoscopy. Of these women, 87 percent said they would be willing to wait more than 30 days to get an appointment with a female colonoscopist, and 14 percent would be willing to pay more for one.